My Personal Coaching
“At the moment of commitment, the entire universe conspires to assist you… Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.” – Goethe
Everybody wants to identify and use their personal talents to make a bigger impact in their lives and for those they care most about. That is what my coaching strives to achieve for you.
Think of it like you want to get from A to B but you are currently walking under your own steam. It’s slow and monotonous and you could use a little technology.
So take a “coach” to get to your destination faster. You can even take your friends along, enjoy the journey and arrive in better shape.
My Personal Quest Research
We are all Seekers, and life is nothing if it is not an adventure.
There are no satisfactory formulas, prescriptions or even guidebooks on how to live your life to the full.
But there are clues.
Mastering your Inner Life is the doorway to your outer fulfilment, joy and purpose. But this is a secular approach and nothing is prohibited because you need to be authentic to yourself.
So become the Indiana Jones of your personal world.
Venture into unknown territory in search of the treasures you seek.
It’s what I call your Personal Quest…
“It is by going down into the abyss that we recover the treasures of life.”
“The ultimate aim of the quest must be neither release nor ecstasy for oneself, but the wisdom and the power to serve others.”
– Joseph Campbell
So come with me to conduct further research using coaching practices to find the clues to those treasures hidden inside yourself. As a mighty oak tree grows from an acorn, so you can grow to achieve your amazing and true potential. (See also my Programs Page)
With me, you will learn to develop your personal philosophy as I guide you onward.
Through deep questioning and listening sessions, through adventures into your inner realm, the answers to your primary questions will be revealed. For example treasures such as the Keys to Will and Fortune as described below.
What is a Personal Quest?
“Fire and water, the marriage of yearning and sorrow, give birth to the quest.”
– The Grail King Speaks
Everyone is brought up to know what this world is and to know their place within it. But some of us have a splinter in our mind that makes us question these givens.
And so aspiration is born inside us and it burns behind our quest and drives us forward to experience a better life.
For a “quest” is simply a question about things that don’t quite fit together or about who we think we should be.
But to achieve it we must risk ultimate failure and embrace the depths of sorrows within ourselves to find ourselves.
One step at a time we will venture wherever our intuition guides us and we must trust in our own destiny.
What I Can Do for You
I will help you ..for a major life change…contribute your unique skills to the world, so helping to make you more fulfilled, more excited, and more enthusiastic about your life.
Let’s face it, you have something more that you are passionate about than your job makes real use of. That passion can also be used to benefit yourself and others, so making you and everyone around you happier, closer, and fundamentally richer than ever before.
But, sadly, my guidance is not for everyone nor even for the many. Only a very few people will follow a personal quest program and reap the unique benefits.
My guidance is more for your heart and less for your head.
“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world.
Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”
― Jalaluddin Rumi, Sufi poet
I find that my own destiny is to guide a few people and change the world one person at a time, hopefully for the better.
If you are pursuing your “ultimate” personal quest it will most likely be what I would call your gift to the world, or perhaps, your legacy. What you achieve will be the fulfilment of your own potential, whatever that is. It may also be your destiny.
I graduated from International Coach Academy as a Certified Professional Coach (CPC) in 2009. International Coach Academy has a proven track record in training people to be online coaches. It is fully accredited by the International Coach Federation (ICF). The ICF is the most respected global oversight body in the coaching industry. As such I uphold their strict code of ethics and standards which are very rigorous.
Also, I became a professional management trainer and group coach for 10 years, which I really enjoyed. I now continue to enjoy listening and encouraging people like yourself through these communications and coaching sessions that I also love so much.
So I have been a life coach off and on since 2009, but against that, medical problems and family needs have been a higher priority. As my child grows up I find more of an urge now to guide others based on what I have learned from these profound life-changing experiences.
I began my own personal quest many years ago in the 1960’s with meditation and yoga, then in the 1970’s with philosophical readings. 1974 was my most significant year with a revelatory experience of transcendence that was stunning, unique and might I say, even mystical.
Of course, we all want mystical experiences because they can be awe-inspiring, but I think I have already had my fair share. However, I can at least guarantee you one mystical experience which is… the miracle of life itself.
Then the 80’s and 90’s were a spiritually fallow period when I slavishly focused on the world of work. But then in 1997 I came to Singapore and experienced some significant changes to my life and my viewpoint shifted many times before it climaxed with a cataclysmic change of perspective in 2006.
More About the Personal Quest Program
You may be seeking structured personal coaching for various reasons, but however you look at it, it is always about WINNING in some area of life, for example, in the external world with wealth creation, business, sports, personal attributes, significance as a performer, etc.
But there is also winning in your internal world where you are on a personal quest to find yourself or discover meaning or purpose or many other things too.
This personal quest program is where I have the greatest experience, but unlike the guru who is already some way down the path, I cannot expect you to follow me too closely. For it must be your path that you follow and not mine. I will instead offer you insights on how the landscape looks and how best to navigate it.
I feel having someone as a co-traveller is something of great value, especially in the early stages of your quest or for when you get mired down or off centre.
The Legend of the Keys
So let me inspire you now with a legend from long ago that features a hard-fought struggle between gods and men.
Two of the sacred treasures that the gods held dear were the Keys to Will and Fortune.
But as men fought, they started to gain the upper hand, and the gods, in a panic, decided to hide their precious keys far away, safely, where they would never be found.
Eventually, the shrewdest of the gods came up with the idea to hide their treasured keys in full view, yet in a place where men would never think to look… deep within our dreams.
And so it was.
The areas of the personal quest that I have found the most appealing in the last 10 years have been in the realms of existential well-being, dream, myths and legends, and even mystical tarot cards as a source of archetypal images.
Will and fortune provide the framework within which to access your personal solutions. The Keys must be discovered in your inner world. They will allow you to harmonize with your fortune and give you the power to shape your destiny.
Once your Keys are discovered, you will determine your direction and find your motivation. Then foresight and preparation will enable you to make headway in your personal quest.
It then becomes a pleasure to be alive.
My Coaching Principles
- You, the client, comes first.
- Confidentiality, Integrity and Privacy are of paramount importance.
- Collaboration is the key to success. Together we can achieve more for you.
- Commitment, trust, excellence and ethical behaviours underpin progress.
- Active listening, polite questioning, and reflection help to create the directional changes you seek.
- Authentic Engagement and trust set the scene for examining assumptions, challenging habitual thinking patterns, and fostering empathy in our conversations.
- Encouraging personal research and learning to understand, analyse, integrate, and adapt to include new best practices appropriate to your situation.
- Always results-oriented.
Return on Investment
The Return on Investment (ROI) for professional coaching is over 500% according to Manchester Consulting Group. It helps you lead a fuller and richer life and gives over 75% benefit in your relationships, over 60% improvement in job satisfaction and team-working plus benefits in your work quality, work-life balance, stress reduction and more.
So your life becomes a lot better.
I focus on the real motivators in your life. Together we identify how to harness your strengths to give you the edge when you need it most.
For a minuscule investment in time and money, you will learn to how to steer a course towards what you really want, rather than what you have simply been told, with the confidence that it is real and has strong foundations within you.
Our coaching sessions will be conducted by phone to ensure privacy, minimise distractions, and allow closer understanding.
The coaching methods I use are practical and to the point. They may challenge you in ways that you don’t expect. But we will quickly develop a trust that enables the coaching process to flourish.
There is nothing airy-fairy about what we will go through but instead, it is based on life wisdom developed over millennia… which gives it a solidity that is palpable.
“… coaches are not for the meek. They’re for people who value unambiguous feedback. All coaches have one thing in common, it’s that they are ruthlessly results-oriented.”
– FAST COMPANY Magazine
Personal Quest Methods
The primary methods of personal questing are:
- Grab the Opportunity: Opportunities for you may appear from nowhere. I don’t actually believe things happen to you simply by chance. Instead, they are the result of hidden desires, wishes or conflicts. Synchronicity, projection and interpretation all have an impact on the conscious recipient. The very word Buddha itself refers to the one who woke up.
- Dream Interpretation: “The interpretation of dreams is the royal road to knowledge of the unconscious activities of the mind”, said Sigmund Freud, Father of Psycho-Analysis. Modern dream dictionaries, lucid dreaming and association techniques can be applied as appropriate.
- Internal Dialogue: “Suddenly it was as though the ground literally gave way beneath my feet, and I plunged into the dark depths”, said Carl Jung, Father of Psycho-Therapy. I draw on the best techniques from CBT, NLP and self hypnosis.
- External Dialogue: Includes coaching, hypnosis, mind-mapping, brainstorming, journaling, etc.
To get the best results from these methods it really helps to have a coach as an honest mirror to help you avoid the paths of error or even self-deception.
There are advantages of phone coaching whereby we can only hear each other, and we are not distracted by face-to-face concerns or distractions. It’s a very intimate, private and sometimes intense experience that is without judgement or embarrassment.
It’s also the case that people often hide their real intent or emotions with their facial expressions. Whereas, the tone of voice they use more often yields the truth of their inner selves. That is why I do phone coaching and not face to face coaching. (see Yale University Insights)
The International Coach Academy describes it as follows, saying it encourages
“active listening, presence, focus and releasing of judgment. Because there are no facial expressions, body language or gestures to ‘read’, it heightens the coaching experience and attunes both parties to what is said and not said, to tone, pitch, and energy, and even the communication clues in a dry cough, a nervous laugh or an unusual pause. We believe it is more difficult to achieve this level of listening skills in a physical environment with endless distractions and pre-conceived perspectives based on what we see. This ‘soul to soul’ style of learning encourages trust, releases fear, and creates a safe and comfortable space for the coaching experience to blossom.”