I refer here to our personal feeling of wellness meaning that mental state of being positive and enthusiastic about life, whatever our situation.
We will focus on those aspects of personal growth that lead to emotional wellness and resilience. “Meaning” is the key driver that provides the “why” to energise this whole process.
To have a good life we need to build strong inner foundations in the affective side of our minds. Wellness carries us from the mundane, treadmill of life to happiness and fulfilment in the good times while also supporting us with through the bad times with deeper resilience and robustness.
Other wellness professionals focus on health and fitness which is fine but without the bedrock of the meaningful wellness, that I refer to, all our efforts may all too easily feel empty and without real purpose.
The Best Evidence
There is a wonderful talk on TED by the current Harvard Study Director that outlines the results from a 75-year long study on adult development.
This study is GOLDDUST.
It concludes with ONE clear message and that is
“Good relationships keep us happier and healthier”
Then there are 3 sub-takeaways on these relationships as follows:
- Loneliness kills (and 1-in-5 Americans report being lonely)
- It’s the quality of our close relationships that matter
- Good relationships protect our bodies and our brains
So choosing a personal growth program to fulfil and support these requirements for the good life will certainly yield huge benefits over time.
There are no quick fixes
We must, therefore, work constantly on “leaning” into better relationships with our family, friends and community rather than simply pursue more physical, environmental, financial, or occupational goals.
For me, experiencing trust and closeness with my wife and my child contributes enormously to my reason for living, while my strong reason for living in turn, supports the close relationships that I have with my loved ones.
This positive feedback loop also drives my daily personal health and fitness programs so I can fulfil family expectations.
The TED talk finishes with the quote from Mark Twain, as follows
“There isn’t time, so brief is life, for bickerings, apologies, heartburnings, callings to account. There is only time for loving, and but an instant, so to speak, for that.”
Important: Health is a closely related area to wellness and we all need to consult licenced medical professionals to explore our health issues or concerns. I am not a medical professional.